Broken Gaydar

So now that I have been labeled as the token gay at work it seems that now my job entails identifying all the other gay men throughout the company.

Nearly every day one of my co-workers will point someone out and ask me, "is he gay?" I am never sure who is gay these days and since I have been married for so long I am completely out of the loop.

I can spot the obvious ones who swish so hard they are at risk of dislocating a hip, but there is a growing gray area that confuses me. We have one guy who is sort of cute and I have no idea if he is straight or gay. He is always friendly to me and all the women in the department claim that he never speaks to them, but to bet either way ...I don't think I could.

I have never been good at spotting other gays and it became apparent at my last job when the straight women were telling me who was and who was not. A few times I was so surprised.

I think because all my friends end up being straight men and women that I don't spend enough time around other gay folks. It was never my plan to exclude gay people from my life, but I seem to spend most of my free time with people I know from work or school and none of them are gay.